Dear Baby,
Another day that was full of emotion. I woke up all anxious and tried to go into work for a while. I couldn't really concentrate on the tasks at hand, so I came home. The reason for my distraction was that we had another ultrasound to see how healthy you are and to find out if you are a girl or a boy! The most important thing was to know that you are healthy, but once that was all checked out, the technician told us that you are a baby boy!
I'm not sure that I can properly describe the feeling of finding out that I am going to have a son...It means that I am going to have to be the primary source for you on how to become a man! That's a lot of responsibility on my shoulders! I don't want you to grow up to be some screwed up kid! Assuming we have another baby, you are going to be the one who is looking out for your little brother or sister! That's a lot of responsibility on your tiny shoulders! I'll make a deal with you...we'll do our best to figure it out together. There's going to be a lot of learning on the fly for you and me over the next couple of decades, but I have faith that we can get it right!
I think that your mom and I really would have been thrilled with either result, but somewhere deep down inside, I think every man wants to have a baby boy. This situation works out perfectly because when you get a little brother or sister down the line, I won't be leaning one way or the other about it.
Of course, this led to the conversation of what your name will be. We had a really hard time coming up with a name for a boy that made us happy. If you end up with a little sister down the line, we will have her name ready. For a boy we had a much harder time. We wanted to pick a Korean name that works in English, but it was hard to find one that we were happy with. We even considered Koda (KOrea - canaDA) but it didn't sit right. We seem to have settled on one that we are both happy with but after we let it simmer for a couple of days, who knows if that will change. For now, we will continue to call you Bang-ya.
Now, one last thing. We have a tradition in both of our families to have big babies. Your mom and her brother were both around 9-10lbs and your Uncle Paul and I were around the same, I believe. Really...that's just mean. Don't be that mean to your mom! A healthy 7.5lbs is good for everybody! Just wanted to put that out there.
Daddy's little boy.....I can't see myself getting tired of that idea anytime soon....
Love,
Dad
Monday, November 16, 2009
Sunday, November 8, 2009
A Year Together
Dear Baby,
Your mom and I are celebrating our 1st anniversary today. I have no idea where a year went. We were so busy this year and it went by so fast! Let's do a little recap:
November 8th, 2008 - Your mom and I got married. The day of your marriage is a surreal one. You put so much work and preparation into trying to get everything right, and then when the day comes, none of the little problems really matter. It goes by in a flash. The day ends up mattering much less than the end result, in that you end up married to the person that you want to grow old with.
November 2008 - Your mom and I went on a honeymoon that has to rank up pretty high on the list of "What the hell was that" honeymoons. Started out beautifully, on one of the most beautiful islands in the world (Koh C
hang in Thailand). Three days in, I got some kind of intestinal virus that made me sick enough to lose 15 lbs in 7 days. Upon taking medicine for my stomach, I broke out in a rash. Not knowing I was having an allergic reaction, I continued to take the medication until I found out from a transvestite pharmaci
st that my laboured breathing meant I was close to going into anaphylactic shock. Of course this was rock bottom, right? No, no...upon trying to return home the Bangkok airport was taken over by protesters in the first international airport takeover of it's kind in the world. Rock Bottom? Oh, not yet! During our 30 hour bus ride to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, we ended up with an uscheduled 7 hour layover in southern Thailand. At that time, there was a very strict "DO NOT EVEN PASS THROUGH THIS AREA" warning from the government of Canada. So we hid in a Sizzler for about 4.5 hours.
December 2008
We escaped Thailand and made it back to Korea. Then we had the very difficult process of moving your mom to Canada. Your mom loves her family very, very much and it was not easy for her to say goodbye to them and move to the other side of the world. Luckily my side of the family have been so welcoming, and your mom has been able to keep in touch with her family in Korea very often. You mom grew to love Canadian winter!
January 2009
I started training to be a financial advisor. I was starting a real, adult job for the first time in my life!
February 2008
We bought our first house! We got totally screwed on our first year mortgage rate, but we had a house of our own! We re-did our floors and painted all of the walls before we moved in. Your mom had to take on a lot of the work because I had to go to my job every day. She was a trooper!
April 2009
We found out that your mom was pregnant for the first time. We were SO excited for your mom to be pregnant, but there was no baby growing inside (it's called a blighted ovum). Now, you may wonder why I would tell you this. Well, first of all, I think it is important for you to know that miscarriages happen. It happened to us, and it has happened to people I know. The important thing is that if you still want to have a baby, you most likely can...and you will be doubly as thankful when you see that little heartbeat for the first time!
July 2009
Your mom's family came to visit at the end of July and stayed for 1 month. It was a fun but very busy month! We traveled around to a lot of places including Niagra Falls, Toronto, Ottawa, Quebec City and Brockville. It was nice to show your mom's family where your mom was living and for them to meet more of my side of the family.
August 2009
We found out about you!!! I don't think I need to say much more than that!
Between August and now your mom and I have both celebrated birthdays. I've been working at doing a good job in my business and your mom's been working hard at her English classes and making sure that our house is a home. A year sure has gone by quick and you are going to be sharing our time so soon! You will bring all kinds of new challenges to our lives but we both embrace those challenges. I can only hope that every other year that I am married to your mom will be as happy or happier than our first year together.
Love,
Dad
Your mom and I are celebrating our 1st anniversary today. I have no idea where a year went. We were so busy this year and it went by so fast! Let's do a little recap:
November 8th, 2008 - Your mom and I got married. The day of your marriage is a surreal one. You put so much work and preparation into trying to get everything right, and then when the day comes, none of the little problems really matter. It goes by in a flash. The day ends up mattering much less than the end result, in that you end up married to the person that you want to grow old with.
November 2008 - Your mom and I went on a honeymoon that has to rank up pretty high on the list of "What the hell was that" honeymoons. Started out beautifully, on one of the most beautiful islands in the world (Koh C
hang in Thailand). Three days in, I got some kind of intestinal virus that made me sick enough to lose 15 lbs in 7 days. Upon taking medicine for my stomach, I broke out in a rash. Not knowing I was having an allergic reaction, I continued to take the medication until I found out from a transvestite pharmaci
st that my laboured breathing meant I was close to going into anaphylactic shock. Of course this was rock bottom, right? No, no...upon trying to return home the Bangkok airport was taken over by protesters in the first international airport takeover of it's kind in the world. Rock Bottom? Oh, not yet! During our 30 hour bus ride to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, we ended up with an uscheduled 7 hour layover in southern Thailand. At that time, there was a very strict "DO NOT EVEN PASS THROUGH THIS AREA" warning from the government of Canada. So we hid in a Sizzler for about 4.5 hours.December 2008
We escaped Thailand and made it back to Korea. Then we had the very difficult process of moving your mom to Canada. Your mom loves her family very, very much and it was not easy for her to say goodbye to them and move to the other side of the world. Luckily my side of the family have been so welcoming, and your mom has been able to keep in touch with her family in Korea very often. You mom grew to love Canadian winter!
January 2009
I started training to be a financial advisor. I was starting a real, adult job for the first time in my life!
February 2008
We bought our first house! We got totally screwed on our first year mortgage rate, but we had a house of our own! We re-did our floors and painted all of the walls before we moved in. Your mom had to take on a lot of the work because I had to go to my job every day. She was a trooper!
April 2009
We found out that your mom was pregnant for the first time. We were SO excited for your mom to be pregnant, but there was no baby growing inside (it's called a blighted ovum). Now, you may wonder why I would tell you this. Well, first of all, I think it is important for you to know that miscarriages happen. It happened to us, and it has happened to people I know. The important thing is that if you still want to have a baby, you most likely can...and you will be doubly as thankful when you see that little heartbeat for the first time!
July 2009
Your mom's family came to visit at the end of July and stayed for 1 month. It was a fun but very busy month! We traveled around to a lot of places including Niagra Falls, Toronto, Ottawa, Quebec City and Brockville. It was nice to show your mom's family where your mom was living and for them to meet more of my side of the family.
August 2009
We found out about you!!! I don't think I need to say much more than that!
Between August and now your mom and I have both celebrated birthdays. I've been working at doing a good job in my business and your mom's been working hard at her English classes and making sure that our house is a home. A year sure has gone by quick and you are going to be sharing our time so soon! You will bring all kinds of new challenges to our lives but we both embrace those challenges. I can only hope that every other year that I am married to your mom will be as happy or happier than our first year together.
Love,
Dad
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